Joy and Balance

Guided Meditation Can Move You Closer To Your Goals

Scott Mills, Ph.D.

No matter if it's the first of the year or the middle of July, we are constantly creating and pursuing goals in our lives.  Often, we do this using sheer force of will.  We believe we can make ourselves achieve even at the cost of our energy and enthusiasm for the project.

However, we can also engage the unconscious mind (where 90% of change actually occurs) as a partner in pursuing our goals.  Linking our goals to things positive feelings as well as inviting our unconscious mind to help us set our path allows us to create change more easily and quickly.

Below you will find a short youtube video that I have created just for this purpose.  Or, if you would like to listen to it on your ipod there is also a link to just download the audio.   Enjoy this meditation knowing that simply by listening to it you'll feel more motivated and inspired to accomplish your goals!

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Does Your Family Bring Out in the Worst in You? Would You Like to Be More Resourceful?

Scott Mills, Ph.D.

Clients tell me all the time that that their families drive them crazy!  They go home for the holidays or even talk to their mother on the phone and it's like they are ten again.   Do you ever have this feeling?  If you do, the short audio exercise that I've created will help to create new possibilities while you simply sit back and relax.   You can download it below.  Please feel free to share this with friends and colleagues that you might like to help be more resourceful in their lives now. 

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Scott Mills, Ph.D., is an expert in human change, development and achievement coaching individuals and organizations in the U.S. and Canada. His book, Awake Parenting: Parenting with Purpose, Presence and Power has been receiving rave reviews from parents across the country. He is currently working on a new book called Waking the Heart. He brings a diverse background from the world of art, theater, spirituality and psychology to his work to his workshops as well as his individual clients. To find out more about him check out www.joyandbalance.com

Read the Introduction to our book, Awake Parenting, for free

Scott Mills, Ph.D.

This morning in my email I received a review of our book, Awake Parenting: Parenting with Purpose, Presence and Power, from a mother of three in Seattle.  She wrote,

        “This book is rich with inspiration, hope and practical tools for all parents who seek more loving  relationships no matter where they are on their journey with their children.   As a parent of a teenager in recovery from drug abuse and another child with attachment disorder it has not only provided me with a framework for personal discovery and renewal but offered a model for  deeper, more fulfilling relationships in general.  You do need to read it more than once!”

It's an amazing feeling to know that our work is having such an impact on parents around the country.  We invite you to check out the first chapter as a free, downloadable pdf.

Download Awake Parenting Intro

   You can buy a full copy of the book at http://www.lulu.com/content/paperback-book/awake-parenting/7036292 whenever you are ready.  For now, feel free to enjoy our invitation to awake parenting.

Read Our New Book About Parenting!!!

Scott Mills, Ph.D.

Dr. Dan Kaufman and I have been have been hard at work writing a new kind of book for parents and people who have children in their lives.    We are excited to announce that it is now available to the world.   Awake Parenting draws on the wisdom that Dr. Kaufman and I have gleaned from working with many, many clients assisting them to build more joyful, balanced and awake lives.  It takes a gentle, spiritual approach to parenting full of easy, practical techniques that allow anyone who has children in their lives to laugh more freely, love more openly and see their children as well as themselves in a brighter light!

Letting Go of Your Emotional Baggage: Emotional Discharge Technique 1

Scott Mills, Ph.D.

The past hurts as well as the anxiety we carry around can be exhausting.  Our lives can feel limited by things that are long since gone or far into our future.   In this first of a series of videos on emotional discharge, I offer a simple process that you can do right now to release some of that tension and create more space in your life!

Have You Caught the Gratitude Virus? Could You Be Spreading It?

Scott Mills, Ph.D.

The power of gratitude is nothing short of amazing!  When we focus on what we do have in our lives, from our health, to people who love us, or even things as simple as being pain free or breathing freely, we come back to the present.  We stop regretting the past and anticipating the future. And this power can be contagious. 

In a workshop led by visionaries Matthew and Terses Engelhart, the founders of Cafe Gratitude who are teachers and guides internationally, I witnessed a very powerful experiment.  At lunch we were asked to share with three people what we were grateful for that day.  Many were nervous at approaching someone else (overcoming their stranger danger) but upon returning many, many stories were shared of how this small practice opened up the teller and invited the hearer to reflect on their own sense of gratitude.  It became a gratitude virus.  Have you spread the gratitude virus today?  Try sharing what you are grateful for with three people everyday for a week and see how this tiny practice begins to shift you life!

Scott Mills,Ph.D. is an expert in the world of work life balance.  As a life coach and consultant he works to create passion, purpose and power in the lives of extraordinary people just like you. You can read more of his blogs or find out more about him at www.joyandbalance.com

Allowing Your Success Momentum to Carry You Forward

Scott Mills, Ph.D.

For most of us where there is a new challenge in our lives, like finding a new job or learning a new skill, there is a nagging little voice in the back of our heads that tells us that we can’t do it.   It probably is busy inventorying all the ways that you have failed in your life and the many ways that you might just fail in your new venture.

But unless you were born yesterday, literally, you’ve had way more success in your life than you are probably giving yourself credit for.  Doing a success inventory and keeping it nearby when you hear those nagging thoughts is a great way to boost your confidence and remind yourself how capable you are of succeeding.

A success inventory is simple.  From your earliest childhood memories to the present, make a list of a minimum of 101 successes that you have had in your life.  Starting out small, you learned to walk and to talk, you probably learned to ride a bike and swim.  You may have graduated from high school or college.  Take the time now to do this inventory and post it somewhere you can see it.  Your new challenge is being backed up by a great wave of success.  Simply let your current challenge be the next one!

Scott Mills,Ph.D. is an expert in the world of work life balance.  As a life coach and consultant he works to create passion, purpose and power in the lives of extraordinary people just like you. You can read more of his blogs or find out more about him at www.joyandbalance.com

If the Buddha Got Fat: A Mindful Path to Weight Loss and Abundant Health

Scott Mills, Ph.D.

In the West, we have adopted a feast (literally) or famine mentality to health.  We seem to either eat whatever we want to, whenever we want to or we starve ourselves to lose it all.   After experiencing both the life of luxury in his father’s palace and then the life of an ascetic starving himself away, Buddha came to what he called the Middle Way.   No where is a middle way more needed than in our relationship to diet and health.

As a life coach, I am very familiar with helping people make change in their lives.  And I know that the feast or famine approach doesn’t work.  Neither does relying on the authority of whatever latest health guru has published a diet suggesting you eat nothing but watermelon or everything but bacon.   As Dr. Dean Ornish has found repeatedly in studies funded by the National Institute of Health, Mutual of Omaha Insurance and other scientific bodies, we can decrease our weight and increase our health so that we feel more energetic, more flexible and stronger when we have the right tools and support.

Inviting Change with Gratitude: Mindful Practices to Create Change in Your Life

Scott Mills, Ph.D.

In the Western world we are suffering from destination addiction.  We are always trying to reach the finish line and often don’t even notice as we round the track.   When we reach the goal we rarely spend much time appreciating it.   Rather we take off for the next goal.

But what if you don’t reach the goal?  Does that mean that no learning, no living, no growth happens along the way?  For many, the answer is yes.   This narrow view of looking at the world not only robs the joy from our lives it also closes us down to the many opportunities we miss along the way while we are not paying attention.  One of the most powerful things we can do to foster positive change in our lives is to pay attention to it as it happens.  Here are four suggestions for how you can do that more often.

One Breath at a Time: Supporting Mindful Change through Structure

Scott Mills, Ph.D.

One of the best ways to ensure failure is not to plan for success.   While I am a big fan of setting our intention and hoping for the best, we can do a lot more than that to make sure that the changes we initiate in our lives last. 

In my work with clients, we use what’s called an integral model of change.   It means that for change to be lasting in has to address four major ways that people are in the world: their heads and hearts, their bodies, their communities and their environment.  Preparing some ways to support yourself through your efforts and those of your friends and family can make the difference between a wished for change and a realized change.